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Fantasy = Rape? I don’t think so.
Jan 15th
I realize by the time I write this it will have probably already been discussed to great length in the blogosphere, but I want to give my opinion. For those of you that haven’t heard, a judge in Manchester, England dismissed charges of rape after the woman who claimed to be raped was found to have a group sex fantasy. You can read the full story here. According to BBC News,
The 24-year-old from Liverpool claimed she was raped after visiting one of the men at his home in Bolton, after making contact on the internet. But the trial at Preston Crown Court collapsed when computer evidence was produced showing her entertaining the prospect of group sex. Judge Robert Brown ordered the jury to return not guilty verdicts.
So because this woman fantasized about group sex she is automatically not a victim of rape? How is this logical to anyone, including an experienced judge who should be well aware that sex with multiple partners is not the same thing as rape. This is another classic example of society associating “inapppropriate” behavior with rape. Because the woman is not only choosing to have sex outside of a marriage, which alone makes her “unpure,” but also is choosing to have sex with multiple partners, she must not be capable of being raped. Obviously any sexual encounter she has was invited because of her “promiscuous” ways.
Does that look as ridiculous to you as it does to me? I hope so. I don’t have much more to say on this subject, but I did want to call it to everyone’s attention. If you want to read more about the perspective I provided above and the numerous ways it is hurting young women, read The Purity Myth by Jessica Valenti.
Want to win a Nobessence Romp?
Jan 5th
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Holiday giving wishlist
Dec 6th
I decided to jump in with the holiday wishlist meme. So here’s my wishlist. If you have one too, post a link and I’ll see if I have something/can get something that you would like!
- Nice, plain clothes. Think the stuff on sale from Banana Republic or Gap that has a little more style than a plain t-shirt, so it can be dressed up or dressed down. Right now my wardrobe is full of either black band t-shirts or formal dresses. I obviously need something in between especially since I’ll be starting job interviews soon. I usually wear a medium.
- Cute and simple jewelry that can be dressed up or down for multiple occasions.
- Giftcards for Amazon.com. It has everything basic that I actually need and it would be great to be able to buy things when I need them.
- Sex toy storage – I really like the smaller For Your Nymphomation cases in particular. My toy drawer is getting messy because there is so much in there and also, I’m traveling to Spain for 3 months this coming summer. I need an easy and discreet way to carry my sex toys in my bag since we only travel with a carry-on. It just needs to be big enough to fit a butt plug, a dildo, a small vibrator and that’s about it. Preferably black in color, but I’ll take what I can get, so as long as it’s not animal print I don’t really care about color.
- Honestly, anything that can help me organize would be great. I’m unorganized and hate it. I would even love advice on how to best pack a carry-on containing enough clothing for 3 months. Advice is free to give and I would love you!
- Anything off of my three separate wishlists. Of course.
- Someone to help walk me through getting my blog new hosting and making a new layout. I can’t pay someone for consulting, but I would really appreciate having someone there to help me out when I need it. I honestly don’t know much about computers and don’t want to totally fuck things up. Kind of an official blog mentor.
- Lube. Seriously. Anything paraben and glycerin free (preferably water-based) that you find good. It doesn’t have to be off my wishlist or anything. I am going through lube like crazy lately and basically, you can never have enough lube.
- Anything from Lushusa.com. I love all of their products and they make me really, really happy.
That’s all I can think of for now. I can be contacted at hello.saraid [at] gmail [dot] com. If you are in the giving spirit and any of these sound like something you can do, let me know!
